Hello, my name is Gary Lloyd. And in this series of three videos, I want to talk to you about the seven steps to find a job that you love. To keep the video short, I want to give you just one nugget that you can use for each of the seven steps. And in the subsequent two videos, I'll go into more detail about the two steps that you're probably going to find most difficult, particularly if you're introverted, or you come from a technical background. So let's get started. The first step is to figure out what you really want from the job that you love.
The biggest mistake that you can make is to focus on what you don't want rather than what you do want. Time and time again. I have seen people jumping out of the frying pan into the fire leaving somewhere they don't want to be for somewhere they Hope will be better. But that's like moving out of a small apartment into a new apartment, because it's slightly better decorated. But when you get there, you find that it's only got a shower. But actually, what you really enjoy is taking long, luxurious baths.
So you have to think deeply about what it is that you really want. And here's my key piece of advice. recalled what you do day by day, to understand the things that you'd like, and the things that you don't like at work. The value of day by day is that you don't look back with rose or dark tinted glasses that you don't let your memory play tricks on you which it will. And the second piece of advice is to sit down and think about those key ingredients that you want in the job that you love. The second step is to see yourself as others see you The truth is that we just don't know ourselves that well.
Understanding how others see you will give you two key benefits. Firstly, you will be able to present yourself much better as a candidate for a job. If you understand yourself well, including your strengths and weaknesses. Be honest with yourself. But secondly, there'll be weaknesses that come as a surprise to you, things that are blind spots. And if these are essential ingredients for you getting the job that you love, then you can work on those things.
So here is my key piece of advice for this step. Pick people you trust, and say that you honestly want to understand how you come across and ask them for three things. Ask them what you should keep doing, what you should stop doing, on what you should start doing. This is a great way of gathering feedback in a way that Doesn't make people worry about giving you negative feedback or hurting your feelings. The third step is targeted networking. Don't run for cover just yet, because I mentioned the word networking.
I'm not talking about going to large social gatherings and having to make conversation with complete strangers. I'm talking about finding a way to have one to one conversations with people that might hire you, or people that will introduce you to people that might hire you. Now, I'm not going to say much more about that, because in the next video, I'm going to talk just about that. all I'll say for now is that if you regard yourself as introverted, then you actually have an advantage. And if you're an extrovert, you actually might have to tone it down a little. We'll talk about that in the next video.
To full step is to craft a message that gets you a meeting how often have you had a message on LinkedIn? from somebody you don't know? That says, Hi, I'm David. And I'd like to add you to my LinkedIn network. And I think to myself, well, Hi, David. But I have absolutely no idea why you want to add me to your LinkedIn network.
LinkedIn is a great way of identifying people that can help you to find a job that you love, or even hire you. But whether it's through LinkedIn, or whether it's through a personal contact, then you need to be able to craft a message that gives the person a reason to meet. So here is my advice on this one. Always give a reason. Say, I would like to connect to you because I would like to meet with you and have coffee, because I really admire your company. And I'd like to find out more about it.
I wonder if you would help me. Of course use your own words. But my key advice here is always say why you want to meet. And always pay a compliment if you can, even if it's just to say that you admire the company, or you read an article that they wrote, and you really liked it. Now, if that person agrees to meet you, then Step five is to prepare for that meeting. And that means doing research about the person that you're going to meet, and the organization within which they work.
And the key thing here is to think about their needs. Think about this. Ask yourself, how can I make them look good? If they hire me? How can I make them be successful? If they hire me, then you're thinking about what they need in the right way.
People hire people that they like, and if somebody likes you, they will find reasons for hiring you. This is what psychologists call confirmation. bias, we make up our minds very quickly. And then we search for information that confirms what we believe, rather than information that this confirms what we believe. And someone will like you if you show genuine curiosity about them. So if you've done your research, that's about asking good questions, not talking about yourself.
And by the way, you need to listen to the answers of the questions and ask follow up questions. Based on the answers that shows you're really listening, not just going through a paper checklist of questions, there will be plenty of opportunity to talk about yourself. And when you do that, I suggest that you do that in terms of stories. But my key piece of advice here is that you should aim for them speaking 70% of the time, and you only speaking 30% of the time. Step seven. What do you do when you don't get the outcome you want, you didn't get hired, the person you had a conversation with wouldn't help you to meet somebody else within the organization that might hire you.
The key thing here is to treat it as an experiment. It's about what you did not about your identity. This is where you can really learn from elite sports people, a tennis player that's developing won't say, Oh, I have a terrible backhand. I'm a terrible tennis player, they'll say to themselves, I'm potentially a great tennis player. But my backhand isn't as good as it should be. And I've learned that from the feedback that I've got from my results and from my coach watching me.
So I'm going to work really, really hard on my backhand now, and I'm going to become a great tennis player. So if you didn't get the result that you wanted, then ask for feedback. And most people are prepared to give it and when you do ask for feedback, dig for examples of Whatever it is that the person saw, a lot of people, when they give you feedback will give you interpretation, rather than examples of what you actually did is what you actually did that you care about. So somebody might say, I thought you came across as unfriendly. What you want to understand is, or maybe it was because you didn't smile once during the whole course of the presentation. And if you did a bad presentation, and that doesn't mean that you're a bad presenter, you can get better.
Don't be boxed in by self limiting beliefs. And there is the last of the seven steps. So that seven steps to find the job that you love. Now, as I said on the way through, in the next video, I'm going to talk about networking. Because I think that that's the thing that people say is the biggest obstacle to following these seven steps. And it shouldn't And I'll explain why in the next video.
I hope to see you there