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The Wheel of Life: how to target a job that will make you happy

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The first two exercises in this section focused exclusively on you, and exclusively on work. These next two exercises, broaden that out into the other aspects of your life. Not just because a good work life balance is a good thing. But also because you can't be successful at work, and happy at work, unless you're happy at home. And you're not going to be happy at home, unless you're happy at work the to feed off of each other. And the exercise for this video is called the wheel of life looking beyond work.

Now, if you search for wheel of life on the internet, you'll find lots of different versions of this. But the version I've created for you is based on the latest psychology and neuroscience around Happiness. The majority of it is based on the work of Richard Layard layout published a book simply entitled happiness. The book drew on the latest neuroscience in psychology to describe the seven causes of happiness. And loud describes the seven causes of happiness as family relationships, financial situation, work, community and friends, health, personal freedom, and personal values. So those will be seven key dimensions for us on our wheel of life.

However, I've also added an eighth dimension. And that's because the work of this man, Paul Dolan, Professor of behavioral science at the London School of Economics, Dolan and his team I've done a lot of work looking into the causes of happiness. And just recently, he published a book called happiness by design, finding pleasure and purpose in everyday life. And when he's talking about finding pleasure in everyday life, he's really talking about what we saw with the peak end effect. And that's really no surprise, because when Dolan was doing his research, he went to Berkeley to work closely with Daniel Kahneman, who originated the idea of the peak end effect. So Dolan argues that we should do what we do with our daily journal, except extend the daily journal into our everyday lives.

Not be fooled by those peaks and ends. But to look at what really gives us pleasure, and design our lives to maximize those sorts of things. Now, I'm not asking you to extend your daily journal into your life outside work. If you choose to do so then you'll probably find that you'll learn a lot from it. The point I wanted to pick up from Dolan's work is about purpose. Dolan argues that we're much happier when we've got a purpose when we don't just drift from one thing to the other thing.

Now, purpose means different things to different people. And there's no right or wrong purpose. Purpose doesn't have to equate to say social responsibility. Both Steve Jobs and Bill Gates were driven by a sense of purpose. But equally, the Pope and the Dalai Lama are driven by a sense of purpose. And purpose is not the same as having a goal.

Let's say you had a goal to make a million dollars. And let's say that you achieved it. So that's done. Now where is your sense of purpose? purpose is a higher level than a goal. It's really about what you wants to achieve with your life.

And that's pretty big stuff. And right now, you may just want to house and feed your family. But if you want to find a job that you love, then purpose is going to be increasingly important for you. So it's critical for you to include it on your wheel of life. And here is your wheel of life layout seven dimensions, plus Dolan's purpose. And what I want you to do is to color this in to show how much attention you currently devote to each of these dimensions on a scale of one to 10.

Let me show you what I mean. Let's start at the top right with health. How much attention do you currently devote to health? Now let's say for the sake of argument, we write that as a five and I'm going to color that in Now let's do personal freedom. Let's say the amount of attention I devote to that at the moment is very low. It's just too.

How about alignment with my personal values? Well actually that's, that's also quite low at the moment. Now what about work? Well, that's a surefire nine or a 10. So I'm going to cover that in 10 purpose, community and friends, financial situation. And finally, family relationships.

Now remember, this is about where you give your attention, where you spend your time. The next step is to score what is important to you in your life. So now I'm going to do this in red. So let's say that your health is really important to you, I'm gonna put a red dot there for the time being, personal freedom is pretty important to you. Let's join these two up personal values is pretty important to you. Work is important to you, but not as important as health.

And if you believe Dolan's research, you'd say that purpose should be pretty important to you. And now I'll go around and score the others. The first thing you're likely to see is a mismatch between some things that you think are really important in contrast with how you actually spend your time. So if you want to find a job you'd love, these things need to be in broad synchronization. You need to be devoting time to the things that make you happy, but clearly there are trade offs Think about the circle as being number of hours that are available in a week. For example, I mentioned in an earlier video, a friend of mine, who is a foreign aid worker, his sense of purpose was very, very strong.

And his purpose driven by religious belief was to help others. And that meant that he spent a lot of time away from home. A lot of the time he was in Africa, but it was also in the Philippines, Haiti, the Far East anywhere that disaster struck. But then he got married. And then he had two children. And clearly, he can't be away from home and therefore his children.

So there's a trade off to be made. And actually now his children a part of his strong sense of purpose, his sense of purpose is broadened. So now he's changed what he does. He still works in the field of foreign aid. And he still travels about 50% of the time. But the rest of the 50% of the time he works from home, he doesn't go into an office, he works from home.

Now, I'm not saying that you should have a sense of purpose that is about helping people in disaster zones, or that you should aim to work from home. So once again, this is about slowing down your thinking, and go back yet again to the example of the Rena who jumped into a new job in a new country without really thinking it through. And in her case, unfortunately, the impact on family relationships was disastrous. So what I'd like you to do now is to download the template that is below and first, coloring, where you currently spend your time and then markup as I did in the video, What's important to you? And as you have probably already guessed, the use of color. And drawing by hand ensures that your whole brain is involved.

So don't just look at your computer screen and go Yeah, that dimension that dimension. Yeah, yeah, I think I've got that. It really want to get value out of this. Sit down and actually do it. Think about the trade offs you're making now. And think about the trade offs that you want in the job you love.

Think about what you want your wheel of life to look like.

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